Hello lovelies, sorry for the lack of posting lately. I’ve been sick since Friday with a UTI so I’ve been doing some serious resting and laying in bed. Today I actually made it to work but my little four hour shift wore me out.
Posting will return as soon as I get better!
» Post mentions that feminism should advocate for bodies of color, differently abled bodies, bodies of transgender people, etc
» I respond, adding that feminism should advocate for fat bodies as well.
» Thin girl responds “let’s change fat bodies to all kinds of bodies” when other non-normative body types have already been mentioned.
The trouble is, this always happens. A fat person says “well, what about fat bodies?” and people with respond with “lol what? gross, no. fat bodies are unhealthy. i mean. they should embrace themselves, but not obesity, lol.” (Actual messages I have received before, by the way.)
So fuck that. I’m tired of people saying I’M BODY POSITIVE for thin pretty white girls. Or I’M BODY POSITIVE because I wanna fuck hourglass-shaped chubby girls. Or I’M BODY POSITIVE unless you’re 300 pounds because if you can’t love your own body, why should I?
All of that is bullshit. We need intersectionality. We’ll fucking die without it. So no, when a thin girl comes along and says “I want to change your post about specifically advocating for fat bodies to being about all*~*~* bodies” WHEN OTHER BODIES HAVE ALREADY BEEN MENTIONED, I am going to take offense to that. I’m tired of being erased. I’m tired of feminism erasing people. Fat bodies are important, and if you don’t agree, then get the fuck out.
Good way to think of it! Thanks! :)
My queue is dwindling down pretty quick, so some submissions, ANYTHING would be greatly appreciated!!
I haven’t been given any of your beautiful faces recently! Don’t be shy! I accept any and all plus size dearies. :)
And as always, thank you so much for your continued support! It means the absolute world to me. <3
It is hard to be a fat girl. No matter how much you tell yourself how sexy, talented, amazing, worthy, fabulous, and genius you are, there is a pretty serious backlash that you are facing – on a minute by minute basis. And, I’ll tell you, I consider myself pretty tough and persistently body positive, but it is not easy to be kick-ass all the time. Especially when someone tells you point blank to your fact that you are fat and you need to lose weight or you will… (insert really scary reason here – usually culminating in the fact that you will be fat, alone, and unlovable until you lose some weight).
And I absolutely guarantee that inside every phenomenal kick-ass fat positive role model is the tiniest inkling of doubt and fear, and every once and a while, when you are feeling a little vulnerable, even the toughest, most awesome girl can be tripped up, even if they refuse to admit it. I’ll even go out on a limb and say that I believe this so wholeheartedly – anyone who tells you otherwise is lying. This is not to say that we should just succumb to the cultural standards and get all weak in our knees when someone calls us fat – we will keep fighting and loving ourselves no matter what and becoming role models for other women to follow in our example, BUT there has to be some room for honesty in the equation. And honestly? It is not always easy to be a Body Image Warrior.” —
This is so important and so true. Its OK to not feel 100% about yourself ALL of the time, everyone has times like that. It’s important to put things into perspective, and not be too harsh on yourself x
Please excuse my inability to post to the right account. -_- The new Tumblr mobile app doesn’t automatically revert back to my primary account after I reblog and I keep forgetting. The pictures have been promptly deleted and sorry if you all were confused for a second. haha.
Thanks so much! And as for striving to love yourself, it can be a long and difficult process. It has been for me. But it gets a LOT easier once you realize that your body was made a certain way and your only goal for it should be to take care of it. Dieting constantly and punishing your body is not taking care of it. Exercise all you want, but exercise because you want to and because it’s fun and you enjoy it! Eat what you want. Cutting out sweets and certain foods completely will just make you want them more. Then you’ll binge and then you’ll feel bad for bingeing. Then the process will start all over. Also dress in what YOU want to. Don’t worry about what flatters your body necessarily or if you think you’re too fat to look good in something.
Basically, just take care of it. And don’t ever strive for some unrealistic ideal of thinness. I bet you’re beautiful! Everyone carries a unique bit of beauty that is their own. Be confident, embrace your body, and don’t worry about what anyone thinks of it. People will love or hate you for any reason. If someone has a problem with your body then they are not someone you should have in your life.
Hope I helped a bit, and thanks for the continued support. :)
“Yes, it’s okay to be fat” by Ragen Chastain
The ultimate BOTTOM LINE. Preach.